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For most of us, our first father is God. A large majority of the world considers God as their father, or rather call God as their father. God is the father to all in such believing families. What is the biological father? How does one become a good father? What are the criteria by which we measure the goodness of a father? It is a subject of discussion and application of thought. Who is the ultimate judge of the goodness of the father? The mother? Children? The company? What qualities must a man possess to be called a good father? These issues generate a more important debate. Can a judge of the mother of her husband about his goodness as a father? This decision may depend on such probabilities. What are the criteria? How was his father? What are their beliefs? These beliefs reflect those of her husband? How much does she love her husband and children? If it comes to taking sides, whose team does it take? Will it be a well thought out decision or one colored by many other factors? The judge may father of his own goodness? What may be correct in his view, may be wrong in her children? The man wears his psychological baggage and many times in May and expects to be prejudging the answers. Generation Gap plays a larger role. As the world evolves, priorities, tastes, values, everything undergoes change. Therefore, a man himself can not decide as a good father. Children will deny that if he does not accept their beliefs. What child will call his father a good father if the father has preconceived ideas about the festival, reports, studies, etc. The children can judge their father? It’s hard to believe. Children certainly wish for a father who not only agrees with their ideas, but supports them in every possible way to enjoy life. What if a child is such that he believes that enjoying life is more important to study for exams? If we think more about it, this will result in more confusion. What he thought of fatherhood and how does one become a good father? The best way out would be to accept the generation gap, listen to children before giving orders to a fair debate on all important questions, and tell the children exactly on the values that will decide the final action. After all, we should simply do his duty and leave the rest to prayers. And before trying to become a good father, one must first become a good man. An addict can never become a good father nor a habitual liar.